Tuesday, June 02, 2009

What is the deal with people?

Here's your scenario:

Your child has been caught throwing rocks at other children. One of those children has been injured and is bleeding rather profusely. You:

1) claim it's okay because "they were all throwing rocks" (they weren't);

2) try to get away before the parents of the injured child or her friends can confront you;

3) verbally assault said parents using profanity in a tirade of "how dare you speak to my child that way!"

4) apologize profusely to injured child and her parents in the (sincere) hope that they do not SUE YOUR ASS OFF.

One parent did #1 and #2. One parent did #3. One parent, luckily the parent of the actual thrower of said rock, chose #4.

Meanwhile, I'm icing the child's head and hoping for no stitches or CAT scans and my friend is being assaulted by the parent of a child who has already been bullying HER child for months at school with no consequences.

Oh, so unpleasant and unnecessary.

If your child has done wrong by another child, make them say they are sorry. Give them some consequences. You do your child no favors by not holding them accountable for their actions. This situation could have been TRAGIC, not only for my child, who escaped with a cut and a lot of tears, but for the perpetrator of the violence as well. Lawsuits and juvenile detention are not what you want for your child, either, I am sure.

Unfortunately, in my experience, the parents of bullies are bullies themselves and see no reason not to continue the behavior and teach it to their children. So sad, so wrong.

We are thanking God tonight that this situation did not end tragically. I wish I thought the other family was as well.



Blogger Cindy said...

Makes it hard to be a good person, doesn't it?

4:38 AM  
Blogger shizzknits said...

Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with a certain child...then I meet the parent and it's SO. CLEAR..

We have a 'bad apple' on our street- one child out of 15 who is manipulative, bully-ing...just plain *mean*. He learns his behavior directly from his parents (especially his mom). All the kids can be playing nicely together, but if this one child comes out...BOOM...crying...pinching...WWIII! And where's his mother? She sits in her garage, not parenting him at all. She only comes out when one of us dares to reprimand him- and then her only comments are to snidely attack us.


At this point I no longer allow my kids to play this this child. Most of the other parents are the same way: the poor kid ends up riding his bike by himself, looking for someone to play with while we all run inside and have indoor or backyard playdates.

Sad, but no one wants to deal with him or his mother. When you posted your question, I immediately knew that this crazy woman would have picked #3...LOL

Sorry to hear you had such a nasty experience. Some people are just nuts.

8:48 AM  

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